Money seems to be the source of so much stress and upset in our household. The husband is a spender, and I'm more of a saver (although, not a good one). We make a decent living, but we live paycheck to paycheck. While we do not have a large amount of debt, we do not have anything left to save or help pay down the debt we have.
The husband likes to spend on "little things". A new shirt, cigarettes, stops at convenience stores, but, these things add up quickly. The husband has been off his medicine for a few months now, and it has gone pretty well more or less. We need to have a serious discussion about his/our spending, but I'm afraid it may trigger an episode. Trying to find the "right" time to bring this up is difficult, trying to find the "right" words is also hard. I can never refer to anything in an accusatory tone or he instantly goes on the defensive. Not that this is all him, but it is about 80%. It's strange to me how intertwined money and his mental health are. If our money situation is okay, he's okay, if it's bad, he's really bad.
Lord, give me the strength and the words to make it through this. I have to find a way to have more control or everything will go to hell.
